I was the child who noticed everything, constantly asked 'why' and pointed out the pink elephant in the middle of the room. I was the truth teller, it's a crap job but someone has to do it. I was also the middle child and oldest girl and my mother was one of the few women in the 60's who worked full-time. I could and was required to cook, clean and take care of my dad and siblings from the age of 8 or 9. It wasn't uncommon in those years but it wasn't great either. Most mothers were full-time homemakers and latch key kids were still a generation into the future. As author Richard Glover reflects in his book 'Flesh Wounds', parents in Australia in the 50's and 60's were often self-absorbed, children were still expected to be seen and not heard and fit into their parents lives. Spare the rod and spoil the child was the catch phrase of good parenting and there was no getting tucked into bed with a story and a cuddle to balance these harsh child-rearing rules. I was a very depressed and unhappy child. I grew up in an environment marked by alcoholism and mental illness which nobody talked about then, so I didn't know any different.
I hatched a plan to escape at 17, even though I was unbelievably naive about the ways of the world, by pleading an interest in becoming a nurse, thereby cunningly pursuing my mother's dream for herself. I didn't actually have any interest in nursing but knew it was my way out. My older brother had joined the navy at 16 and I guess I was envious of his escape. I went to Sydney alone and never returned home again except for short stays and even shorter fantasies of the kind of love and acceptance I craved but never found.
I spent my young adult life trying to please men to get love but that didn't work out well since the only love I was familiar with was the narcicisstic and self-absorbed kind. I was attracted to cocky child-men who could publicly fool the world into believing they were normal while in private their demons ruled. I was their mother, provider and cheer squad. As I look back now I find it bizarre the lengths I went to... starving, perfecting, pruning and shaping myself, paying for everything and working my butt off so I could be loved.
I was not good at staying in shitty relationships and I was independant. I would escape with my children, make a new life, and sigh with the relief of reprieve from the alcoholic abuse, anger, madness, control and moodiness of my partners. I was physically abused by more than one partner and bashed while I was pregnant on my 23rd birthday by my husband at the time. I was never a wilting violet but I was a 'good girl' and my family's response to such physical abuse was to demand to know what I had done to deserve it. After one such beating my mother told me at the tender age of 23 that my life was over and I had to think of my children, that I had made my bed and had to lay in it. Probably no surprise that I spiraled into a depression that resulted in a suicide attempt.
I was good at working, providing a home and taking care of others so I kept the wheels of life turning for myself and my children. I'd learnt that lesson well and there is much to be said for the ability to keep putting one foot in front of the other and getting the next meal on the table. This is why women are such great survivors and outlive men consistently. Women stay busy, putting others needs before their own, taking care of homes in the same simple ways that women have done for generations.
My early career was spent working in health, beauty, law and education. Divorced at 23 with two small children to support, I worked my way through university, studying psychology and history and eventually found my way into the education system. I had no desire to be a teacher but it paid well, had long holidays and short working hours and I could be there for my kids. I hated most of it and frequently cried on the way to school, knowing that 8Z would make mince meat out of me but I spent more than 23 years as a high school teacher.
Then a series of synchronistic and tortuously painful relationship challenges with the love of my life, who sadly later committed suicide, guided me to look for answers for myself and eventually train in helping others. In the school of hard knocks my wisdom and skills developed, as did my passion for helping others change their lives. Having dragged myself out of the pity pit at the bottom of the pond, I became focused on helping others do the same.
I developed my latent intuitive abilities, inherited from a long line of very gutsy, strong women. My mother and her sisters were psychic, they had premonitions, precognitive dreams, saw dead people and 'just knew' things. None of them gave psychic readings or earned money from their skills but I've no doubt they could have. I thought this skill had passed me by until I began to baffle my clients by knowing things about them they hadn't yet revealed to me. I began to get a tapping in my right ear when I was meditating and asking for answers and then an energy coming into the right side of my head and shoulders. The proof was the wonderfully wise information that came through me about my clients. Eventually I began to consciously tune into Infinite Intelligence and my Guide, Goddess Ma'at, and I am able to use this knowing in my work.
For a long time I was obsessed and devoured every book I could find on psychology, philosophy, mysticism, consciousness and awakening, metaphysics, quantum science, healing, meditation, channeling and spirituality. I am by nature curious, a thinker with a thirst for knowledge. I was also being guided to study what I needed to know to fulfill my life purpose.
We are all a constantly changing work of Art, I don't believe we ever get to the end of our capacity to grow and expand in this lifetime. Our job is to heal ourselves, to do our own inner work, to help heal the World one Soul at a time.
Bachelor Degree - Psychology (University of Newcastle)
Diploma in Education (University of Newcastle)
Graduate Certificate Counselling (RMIT)
Certified Gottman Relationship Counsellling Level 1 (Gottman Institute)
Telephone Counselling Certificate (Lifeline)
Diploma Counselling (AIFC) (ongoing)
Master NLP Coach (Advanced Neuro Dynamics Australia)
Diploma Applied Clinical Hypnotherapy (Academy of Transformational Psychotherapy)
Past Life Regression Therapy (Michael Newton Institute)
Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique (Dolores Cannon)
Certificate in Hypnotherapy (ABH)
Time Line Therapy Master Practitioner Certificate (TLTA)
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
Advanced Psych-K Certificate